Apr. 5th, 2017


Apr. 5th, 2017 12:16 pm
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It's been several days, and I've not heard one apology or explanation from anyone at the Montessori school after making my complaints. I'm not sure if they're just extremely disorganized or, if when they found out that B was autistic they decided to put their worst foot forward given how before they knew when I contacted the higher ranks they responded in 5 minutes. It sounds paranoid, but my entire experience in elementary school is the school claiming I was ADHD and pressuring my mom to put me on medication as if that would somehow magically improve my listening comprehension instead of offering services (and for the record, I am most definitely NOT ADHD, and my mom knew the idea that I was was BS). Really, my experience of junior high and high school were good, but elementary school not so much, and I have a hard time overcoming my skepticism that elementary schools are interested in educating kids rather than making them convenient test takers.

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Sickened: The Memoir of a Munchausen by Proxy ChildhoodSickened: The Memoir of a Munchausen by Proxy Childhood by Julie Gregory

My rating: 2 of 5 stars

This is one of those books where I feel a bit guilty for not liking it. All said, it was a relief when I finally finished it. I'm not sure if it was massive caregiver fatigue getting in my way as I work with helping people recover from trauma (though that has never happened before) or if it was some fault of the book. That said, Gregory's life was horrifying and because of that I wanted to like this book more than I did, but I didn't. I know some people are challenging the veracity of Gregory's memoir, and I do want to say some things in Gregory's favor. First, children tend to want to see their parents as good people because they see their parents as extensions of themselves, so for Gregory to have gotten to this point where she would write a book about the horrific abuse that she experienced, well, she must have had good reasons. Second, Gregory never claims to have forgotten the abuse or have recovered memories she lost, which are red flags for false memories. So I tend to believe Gregory.

I think I was expecting more of a focus on Manchusen by Proxy, a condition where a caretaker, usually the mother, fakes medical symptoms in her child to get attention. In some ways this book seemed segmented into two stories, visits to the doctor and then the horrific abuse that happened at home. It's told as it unfolds from Gregory's POV at the age she was when going through her ordeals, with little insight on how she looks at it now from an adult's perspective and or education about how what her mother was doing fits the pattern for MBP. And the result was that it felt rather voyeuristic. And at times Gregory seemed so focused on painting a picture of what was happening that it just got confusing, such as when she spliced the word "car battery" into "car batter" and then breaks to describe how her mother wails "REE" that left me confused and re-reading that sentence over and over trying to figure out what a car batter (I even Googled car batter) is and what a ree is until I put it together. I read a lot, and I have never seen something like that before.

If anything it left me with more questions about MBP, though I could easily map out the abusive dynamics of the family as that is very familiar from an academic standpoint. And in the end I felt it was more of a story of a severely dysfunctional family with MPB on the side, rather than tackling MPB front and center. I guess you could argue how to do one without the other, but there it is.

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